Welcome

“We can choose courage or we can choose comfort, but we can’t have both. Not at the same time” – Brene Brown

Making the decision to start counselling is never an easy one but it is brave.  Do you have an overwhelming desire to change something in your life or understand something more fully? Where does it come from and can this be achieved? My role as counsellor is to help you find your answers. This is accomplished by offering you a space where you can be courageous, albeit in your uncomfortableness.  Please get in touch if you feel ready to embark on this journey.

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“It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are.”
― E.E. Cummings

 

“The most courageous act is still to think for yourself. Aloud.”
― Coco Chanel

 

“The most fundamental aggression to ourselves, the most fundamental harm we can do to ourselves, is to remain ignorant by not having the courage and the respect to look at ourselves honestly and gently.”
― Pema Chödrön

Services Offered:

Online

Online counselling via platforms such as zoom or doxy.me.  Clients must have accessible reliable internet and a safe confidential space at home to take part in sessions.

Walking

Walk and talk therapy in a suitable area that counsellor and client agree upon.  I will ‘scope out’ area to ensure privacy, easy walking route, and seating areas should these be needed.  If you select this method, I will need to ask you some medical questions to ensure safety.

Telephone

Traditional voice only telephone call – the first consultation will start in this method.  Only telephone and online counselling available during COVID-19 pandemic during ‘lock-down’ times, following the available government advice at the time.

In Person

Traditional face to face, in person counselling.  I rent rooms across Nottinghamshire so please get in touch for details.

Specialities

I have experience with a variety of issues but here are a few of the main types.

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Trauma

Trauma can take many forms and shapes. Trauma can start as early as childhood or come later in life with adverse effects such as PTSD. I have specific training and experience dealing with trauma related to childhood sexual abuse (CSA) and I have personal experience of trauma from a natural disaster. I understand all too well the ‘fight’, ‘flight’ or ‘freeze’ responses our bodies naturally go into when faced with a traumatic experience. My job as a counsellor is to empower you find your way out of the trauma responses and therefore live a more peaceful, authentic life.

Grief

Grief and bereavement are usually thought of when a loved one passes away. However, you can experience this process for other losses in your life, like a relationship break-up or any major change in the way you live your life.
Collectively and globally, we are experiencing grief from the COVID-19 pandemic, as the Queen said in her speech, “…a disruption that has brought grief to some, financial difficulties to many, and enormous changes to the daily lives of us all.”
Knowing that each individual is different and works through bereavement in different ways, I will help you ‘steady the ship’, by being a constant in your life of change.

Relationships

You might think I mean couples counselling, but I don’t!  By this I mean, how are you in relation to others?  What is your relationship with yourself? 

You may have come to counselling because of a ‘symptom’ coming to a head, but many times it is the relationship you have with yourself firstly and secondly others that is contributing to your adverse physical and sometimes mental ill health.  Counselling gives you the space to safely explore these feelings.

Existential

When we ask ourselves the big questions – sometimes this can create an ‘existential crisis’. 

Questions such as – what is the purpose of life, why don’t I feel fulfilled in life, why haven’t I accomplished enough, if I die where will I go?  Some of these answers will come from your own beliefs and faith, others will come from your ability to examine your life with magnifying glass in a safe space to find your own answers.

Questions clients ask

Frequently Asked Questions

Please have a look through these FAQs to see if any of these questions help you in your decision-making process.

How do I know when it is time to get support?

“We can choose courage or we can choose comfort, but we can’t have both. Not at the same time” – Brene Brown

Making the decision to start counselling is never an easy one, but it can be a rewarding one. Sure, counselling isn’t easy, but you weren’t looking for an easy option were you? What brings you to counselling – what is the overwhelming desire to change something in your life or understand something more fully? Where does it come from and can this be achieved?

Some people start counselling when their ‘symptoms’ become a barrier in their life. Instead of treating the ‘symptoms’ which are on the surface level (depression, anxiety, irritability, anger etc), I will help you to get to the root of it all, in a gentle, non-judgemental and empathic way and working at your pace.

Who do you work with?

At this time I am only working with adults 18 years and older, across all genders.  If you have a disability and we are meeting in person, please let me know so I can ensure measures are put into place for a comfortable setting.

What type of therapy is offered?

I am a Person-Centred counsellor, which is one of the Humanistic counselling modalities.  In simple terms this means I will listen to you without judgement and with empathic understanding.  Metaphorically, I will walk a mile in your shoes, but keeping my own socks on.  I do tend to use analogies and metaphors during the sessions to help the client visualise the ‘issue at hand’ in another way.

My role as counsellor is to help you find your answers. This is accomplished by offering you a space where you can be courageous, albeit in your uncomfortableness, to hold that mirror up to yourself and take a good look at it every now and then.

How long does therapy last?

There are no set number of sessions required so this is entirely your choice.

Some people only want short-term work, perhaps to address a very specific issue or goal, and this can be worked through in a relatively short amount of time.

I do, however ask that if you are working through complex trauma that you commit to a minimum of 6-months of weekly therapy.  This is due to the nature of the work and is classed as long-term counselling.  We would discuss this in the initial session and as part of our counselling agreement.

My Biography

About Me

I am a qualified Person-Centred Counsellor, a member of the BACP, and hold professional indemnity insurance. I offer traditional counselling 1-2-1 sessions in areas across Nottingham city and Nottinghamshire, telephone and online counselling, and walking therapy in a variety of parks across the county. Please get in touch, I offer a free telephone assessment so we can see if we are the right fit to work on your goals together.

I have worked in a variety of counselling agencies – from general adult counselling, to young people counselling, counselling for those affected by alcohol and substance abuse, and also counselling for adults who experienced sexual abuse as a child.

I have seen clients with a range of issues from bereavement and grief, to relationship, trauma, self-esteem and self-worth, mental health conditions such as anxiety and depression, hearing voices, and suicidal ideation.

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In the first session, I would ask you some questions about what you hope to get from counselling, if you can commit to weekly sessions and what self-care measures you take, as therapy can evoke some strong emotions.

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