Music & Lyrics – Sigrid, ‘Raw’

Music & Lyrics – Sigrid, ‘Raw’

One of the themes that keeps reoccurring with many of my clients and one I have personally struggled with at times is finding the sweet spot of authenticity.  What does it mean to be me and if I am the whole me, will others accept that or not?

I am pretty new to the world of Sigrid, finding a real connection with her music at the moment and the fact she is not a typical pop star – all about image and selling sex.  I stumbled across this song, Raw, by accident this morning and it has stopped me in my tracks.  The chorus is particularly adept at capturing what it means to be authentic, genuine, pure, or as Sigrid puts it ‘Raw’.

No, I could never fake it
Like players always playing
Arrest me if I hurt you
But no apologies for being me

I just wanna be pure
You know I’m terrible at putting up a show, oh
That’s what you wanted me for?
So I get pissed off when you ask me to be more

Oh oh oh oh oh
I just wanna be raw
Oh oh oh oh oh
I just wanna be raw

Is authenticity a fixed state? No I think not, it’s like fluid, ever-changing just as we humans are ever-changing.  So the second question is, how do I know when I’m being authentic or not?  I guess the question you need to ask yourself is, what does my gut say, do I feel like I am putting on a mask to deal with people?  The ‘everything’s fine’ mask, or the professional mask, I am calm mask, etc.  That’s not to say that there’s no time and place for masks, some jobs require acting a certain way – customer service for one where the desire is to be positive and cheerful, it’s just that if you live your full life with a mask you will be exhausted and utterly unhappy. 

I also think what Sigrid is saying is that being inauthentic with the person you are romantically involved with isn’t a good thing, no masks should be worn, players playing or putting up a show.  She asks the question, ‘that’s what you wanted me for?’ as in there was an initial attractiveness to being raw and when expectations from others come into it this causes emotional upset – ‘so I get pissed off when you ask me to be more’.  Which reminds me of a quote I heard once that I remind myself of every time I think of the word expect – “Expectations are like resentments waiting to happen”.  Am I expecting someone else to behave a certain way, even if it’s not authentic to them?  What does that say about me?  Can I let this expectation go, so as not to take a toxic hold over me?

Finding your raw state is a process in self-awareness.  Finding yourself and your identity can take shape in different forms for different people – for some it’s a spiritual journey, others it’s a intellectual one, still others find a therapeutic alliance the best way to get there.  Whatever floats your boat, I invite you to take the mask off, find your raw and be that person especially with the people you love.

Raw

Sigrid

If I show I’m fragile
Would you go ahead and find somebody else?
And if I act too tough, know that I care bout you
I’m honest, no offense

No, I could never fake it
Like players always playing
Arrest me if I hurt you
But no apologies for being me

I just wanna be pure
You know I’m terrible at putting up a show, oh
That’s what you wanted me for?
So I get pissed off when you ask me to be more

Oh oh oh oh oh
I just wanna be raw
Oh oh oh oh oh
I just wanna be raw

Keeping up appearances
But sometimes, all we need’s a little break
Regret the stupid shit I say
I hope that you forgive me any day

No, I could never fake it
Like players always playing
Arrest me if I hurt you
But no apologies for being me

I just wanna be pure
You know I’m terrible at putting up a show, oh
That’s what you wanted me for?
So I get pissed off when you ask me to be more

Oh oh oh oh oh
I just wanna be raw
Oh oh oh oh oh
I just wanna be raw

That’s what you wanted me, that’s what you wanted me
That’s what you wanted me for?
No, I just wanna be, no, I just wanna be
I just wanna be raw

Arrest me if I hurt you
But no apologies for being me

I just wanna be pure
You know I’m terrible at putting up a show, oh
That’s what you wanted me for?
So I get pissed off when you ask me to be more

Oh oh oh oh oh (I just wanna be, I just wanna be)
I just wanna be raw
Oh oh oh oh oh (I just wanna be, I just wanna be)
I just wanna be raw

I just wanna be raw

Songwriters: Odd Martin Skaalnes, Sigrid Solbakk Raabe

© Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC, Universal Music Publishing Group

Source:

Sigrid (2018), Raw, Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC, Universal Music Publishing Group: LONDON

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